Ladies, Just How Pissed Would You Be?

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You're way more special than my ex! That's why I'm giving you this ring I was gonna give her. #winning

I was listening to the radio the other day and heard an interesting story. I actually didn’t believe it at first because it sounded like SUCH a bad idea that makes complete and total lopsided sense that I’d never think any body (men really) would think to do this.

Until I was informed that there was an episode of Sex And The City that had a similar premise. Well, I’ll be. I never really got into SATC even though I heard it was like the greatest show ever not named The Wire.

Oh, what had happened was?

Right, so what had happened was that the show was about things you are keeping from your spouse and this one fellow called in to the station to confess that his wife’s engagement ring was originally intended for another woman he was engaged to but broke it off with. This ninja used the same engagement ring…twice.


I couldn’t believe my own two ears except I heard it with them. Honestly, I couldn’t even figure out why I was so taken aback. Perhaps it was the sheer audacity of hope that his wife would never find out (or that he’d ever actually admit that out loud on the off chance that she’d find out). Or maybe because it was actually fairly smart of him. Maybe he couldn’t take it back for some reason or couldn’t sell it anywhere and break close enough to even.

To be clear here (ladies), I think its jacked up to use the same engagement ring twice. I feel like the ring you buy for a woman should be reflective of her specific wants and tastes and is ultimately, supposed to be ‘pacifically for her and her only. To give another woman the ring that was picked out specifically for prior woman just seems wrong.

But also, what if she finds out? There are a few things in life that I think would piss a woman off to the nth degree. Finding out that Lisa Raye is a PhD biomedical engineer would be one of them (she’s not). A TMZ exclusive video of Idris Elba f*cking Eddie Murphy would be another. But learning that your husband gave you the same ring that he gave some other heffa would definitely be at the top of the list of things that might get you stabbed. Its just wrong.

You know what makes it especially wrong? I can’t think of a comparable male equivalent. I mean, we all know that Yeezy taught her how to put those motherf*cking Jimmy Choo’s on. Taught her well in fact. But in terms of something of that high value, both sentimental and emotional that a woman would provide to a man, nothing comes to mind.

Back to the ring. I honestly can’t understand for the life of me what would compel a man to think this is okay. Why he even kept the ring after the first engagement faltered is beyond me. The ring makes no sense as a keepsake or as a memento. Hell, it probably cost him an arm and a leg so I’d be trying to recoup those loses via that ring. Which begs the question over all, who actually keeps sh*t like that after the engagement didn’t work out. Maybe he was just that sure that he’d end up being married at some point.

I know I ain’t keepin’ no ring. I’d take that ho back and get me some golf clubs, a couple prostitutes and a ouija board. But that’s just me.

So after all that, I’m just curious about a few things. Ladies, just how pissed would you be if you found out that your man gave you an engagement ring originally intended for a previous fiance? Is there a male equivalent here? And fellas, would you ever consider doing something like that?

But most importantly…who the hell keeps engagement rings after the engagement ended up like MJ?

MJ gone. Our ninja dead.


****PS THANKS to everybody who came out to party with Panama Jackson at Liv Nightclub in DC this past Saturday night. The party was INSANE. Good vibes, good music.  Make sure you stay paying attention for more event notices. And that Saturday party…is a monthly. We’re going to do it the first Saturday of every month. Sadatay.****

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