Kissing is a delicate art and must be taken slowly with a new partner. It can be part of foreplay/sex – or simply an incredibly enjoyable act of romance and intimacy in its own right. A good kisser knows how to pace themselves, has an active imagination, and understands what their partner likes or may not expect, but will enjoy. When kissing, remember the following: never slobber (though moistened lips are fine and helpful), don’t stare and always pay attention with your non-visual senses (touch, hearing, etc.). Also, there is no such thing as ‘too slow’. If you are unhappy with a kiss then chances are your partner is going to feel the same way. The best thing you can do is relax, and not just in your body, but your face, lips, neck, everywhere. Be relaxed and confident with how you kiss. Let yourself go with the flow of the moment and savour every second of it. While you are kissing, remember to use your hands, nose, and breath to entice your partner’s senses.

Everyone enjoys being touched anbd caressed while being kissed. Use your hands to gently caress the cheek, the jawbone, the back, arms, and collarbone. A gentle exhalation of air (remember that good mouth hygiene is important), can provide your partner with extremely light, warm feelings on their face, mouth and neck that are quite arousing. Never “attack” someone when you kiss them, unless they like that sort of thing – and most people don’t. Treat their lips like you would a dangerous creature. Move in slow and prepare for the kiss. Initial contact should be lips only, firm, yet gentle. React to how your partner is kissing. If they speed up, speed up with them. If they slow down, follow suit. Try to synchronize your actions with one another and always pay attention to their body language. The following is a list of some simple techniques to spice up a kiss:

    French Kiss

    Usually romantic or sexual in nature (so not usual for a ‘first date’, in
    which one person’s tongue touches the other’s tongue and usually enters his or
    her mouth.


    Kiss between the eyes, on the tip of the nose, and then on the lips.

    Top and Bottom

    Kiss the top lip, then the bottom lip, then both.

    Lickable Lips

    Run the tip of your tongue along your partner’s lips.


    Gently kiss, nibble, and suck on the earlobe.

    Facial Lines

    Trace the neck and jawbone with your lips and tongue.

    The Big Tease

    Kiss everywhere but the lips, until your partner pulls you to their lips.

    Caressed Lips

    Rub your finger gently across their lips and then go in for a kiss.


    Look in their eyes and whisper you want to kiss them. Press your lips gently
    to theirs’, caress their lips with yours and then give her/him a passionate


    Gently brush cheeks with your partner.

    Eskimo Kiss

    Gently rub the tips of your noses together.


    Brush eyelashes with your partner. Make a fluttering motion of the eyelash by
    quickly opening and closing the eye.

    Rose Petals

    Make a small “O” with your lips. Press your lips against your partner’s skin
    and suck softly. Lift your lips off a little, move over slightly, and

    Hostage Kiss

    Cover your lips with tape and get your partner’s attention. When they come
    near, make noises like you’re trying to tell them something and motion as if you
    can’t get the tape off. Once they remove the tape from you to hear what you’re
    trying to say, tell them, “I’ve been saving my lips all day just for you!” Then
    kiss them passionately.

    Strawberry Secret

    Place a strawberry in your mouth without your partner knowing. Crush the
    strawberry in your mouth and feed some to your partner while you kiss.

    Cold as Ice

    Put a piece of ice in your mouth without your partner knowing. Kiss them on
    the neck and let the ice softly touch their skin.

    Back Kisses

    Snuggle up behind your partner and proceed to cover their back with little

    Foot Kisses

    When your lover comes home from work, or wherever, wash their feet and give
    them a massage. While you’re giving them the massage, lean over and give little
    kisses on their feet.

    Hershey’s Kiss

    Try not to kiss your partner all day. Throughout the day leave Hershey’s
    kisses or some sort of romantic candy in places that they will know it’s for
    them. Later in the day start leaving notes with poetry or quotes on kissing for
    them. After that, leave a love letter describing how you’d like to kiss them and
    the satisfaction that it would bring you. Once you feel they’ve had enough
    teasing, spend sometime rewarding them with lots of kissing! This is rewarding
    for yourself as well, since you’ve been thinking about kissing them all day

    Red Light Kiss

    When in the car with your partner, every time you stop at a red light, lean
    over and kiss them until the light goes green.

    Recorded Kiss

    Record the sound of yourself blowing a kiss. Then either e-mail it to your
    partner or leave a note somewhere with instructions to press play.

    Video Kiss

    Record on a videotape or web cam yourself blowing kisses to your partner and
    tell them how much you miss them.

    E-mail Kiss

    Draw or animate a pair of lips kissing. Then send it to your sweetheart.

    The Lost Kiss

    Look around your partner, looking under things and appearing like you’re
    searching for something. When asked what you’re looking for, say “I’ve been
    looking for a kiss all day but I can’t find one anywhere. Oh wait, I found it.”
    Then give your partner a kiss.

    Wake Up Kiss

    Before your partner awakes, lean over and kiss their cheek. Then give soft
    kisses across their cheek until you reach their lips.

    Make Up Kisses

    At the end of the day, sit down with your partner and ask them how his/her
    day went. Silently keep track of all the bad things that happened during the
    day. When he/she is finished, give them a kiss for each one. When asked what you
    are doing, say you are helping make up for all those bad things.

    Post-It Kiss

    Make a post-it note trail that leads to your lips. On each note leave a
    lipstick kiss and an arrow or clue to find the next note. Place the last note
    over or near your lips.

    Full Body Meltdown

    While your partner is laying down, slip over to them and start running your
    tongue, very gently, up their leg, arms, reaching their lips give them a full
    passionate kiss.

    The Grandious Tease

    Softly run your fingers across your partner’s lips, lure them in to kissing
    you, but before you kiss, pull away and then go in for the kiss, then pull away
    again, etc., etc.


    So now you know how to ‘kiss with a difference’, all you need to do is go try
    it out. Remember, a badly executed kiss is a real turn-off, but a great kiss is
    memorable and can be totally seductive…

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